Can you imagine how much we are spending on our security/ insurgency?
Can you imagine how much Pakistan is spending on their security/ insurgency?
Can you imagine how much of this is being spent out of each other's fears?
Can you imagine where is this money going? (Atleast I have some answer to this one. Most of this money is going to European & US arm suppliers, corrupt politiceans/ beurocrats & touts)
Can you imagine the extent of loss of human life these superficial tensions are causing every year?
Can you imagine how much economic loss it is causing to both the countries?
What is the solution?
Can India & Pakistan merge to become a unified entity once again?
Who will resist?
Public?
NO!
People who have lost their nears & dears in this madness over the past 61 years?
NO!
Corporate world?
NO!
Economists?
NO!
Politicians?
YES!
Why?
They lose an opportunity to garner votes!
Are they so foolish?
May be not!
al they need to understand that they are getting a wider & bigger vote bank to play around & spread hatered!
Touts?
YES!
They will be losing a big business!
Foreign companies?
YES!
Again, they will be losing a big business!
Beurocrats?
YES!
Again, they lose opportunity to make fast buck!
I believe they also can be made to understand (afterall, they will get a wider base to earn & spread corruption!)
So, who stops us?
LET US COME ALONG AND START A MOVEMENT!
WE HAVE BE UNITED IN THE PAST!
IF OUR FORE FATHERS HAVE LIVED TOGETHER, WHY CAN'T WE?
FOR THE SAKE OF OUR CHILDREN.........
IT IS POSSIBLE...IF GERMANY CAN UNITE.....KOREA CAN UNITE.....SO CAN INDIA & PAKISTAN....FOR THE SAKE OF A PEACEFULL WORLD
I REQUEST ALL LIKE MINDED PEOPLE TO SEND ME SUPPORT MAILERS FOR THIS!
Friday, October 10, 2008
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Who needs a change?
Life is to change.
We undergo some change after every time frame. Time frame can be a month, week, day, hour, second or millisecond!
We grow old, we change...
We meet new friends, we change...
Our mood changes, we change...
Our priorities change...
We change of clothes...
We change our prefrences...
The list can go longer.
So, every one undergoes a change, whether intentionally or un intentionally.
Then why are we so reluctant to change?
We like change which we like...
What do we like?
We like anything which we think will benifit us or gives us pleasure.
Do we really know what will give us pleasure in future?
Change is about future.
If we do not know the future why are we afraid to change?
So, welcome change...because we all need a change.
Cheers!
We undergo some change after every time frame. Time frame can be a month, week, day, hour, second or millisecond!
We grow old, we change...
We meet new friends, we change...
Our mood changes, we change...
Our priorities change...
We change of clothes...
We change our prefrences...
The list can go longer.
So, every one undergoes a change, whether intentionally or un intentionally.
Then why are we so reluctant to change?
We like change which we like...
What do we like?
We like anything which we think will benifit us or gives us pleasure.
Do we really know what will give us pleasure in future?
Change is about future.
If we do not know the future why are we afraid to change?
So, welcome change...because we all need a change.
Cheers!
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
Respect people to earn respect
Friends
I am back with some new thoughts. Again this one is meant to address some challanges that we face at the workplace in specific & life in general.
Often we seek attention, respect, appreciation & recogniotion from people.
We feel good if people recognize us. We feel better if they actually come & say hello. We feel on the top of the world if they appreciate us in public. Right?
We often complain of being ignored, not being appreciated, not being recognized, not getting a fulfilment, respect & reward from what we do at home or office.
Why does this happen?
How many times do we honestly try to admire other people...specially in the peer group?
We often tend to ignore one very simple thing, "every one has his own traits - some good ones - where we have a scope to learn...& this person deserves a respect for the same".
Often I have seen that we create a sham around us restricting overselves from this exposure. Why does this happen?
Because we feel ourselves superior to others? we feel they do not even deserve a pat of appreciation from us? Or does this feeling comes out of a sense of insecurity within ourselves?
I will explain this with an example.
In the earlier years of my career a colleague of mine used to get very much irretated because of a steno. The poor fellow was a tribal from North east India & had a natural challange for accent of spoken Hindi or English.
This colleague of mine often used to make mockery out of his accent, body language etc. He would scold him for petty things. Unfortunately I do not have a happy ending to state for this story since I did not have the courage or enlightment to confront this friend of mine on this issue.
Then one good day something happened which forced me to revisit my approach towards life. I was handling a complex assignment with a tight deadline. Not to say, I was under some real pressure having already spent a couple of sleepless nights working more than 16 hours a day. To make the things worst, I was to compile a detailed report running into more than hundred pages, with several annexures. This report was to be presented to my director next morning for his review. The worst part was that the annexures were to be reconciled & compiled from various annexures sent by different branch offices.
It was already 6 p.m. I was still coordinating with branches for the complete data. I was hassled, tensed, panicky, irritated & feeling really feeling sucked up....
Most of my colleagues had packed off for the day & I knew after a while I will be left alone the fight this battle....
Then, from some where, this steno appeared. He offerred himself for help. I new I needed help, but was not sure if he was the right person. I believe he understood what was going in my mind. He simply came forward & requested me to move to an adjacent table. His firmness & confidence pushed me to follow the instructions. He quitely rearranged my table, gathering all the relevant papers at one place.
"Sir, now please tell me how would you like to arrange these papers..." he asked me.
I explained him the structure. I asked him, "will you be able to do it?" He smiled & said.."Yes!"
I could feel waves of all types of emotions - excitement, relief & joy flowing in my heart.
For a few seconds, I watched him.
He looked at me - "sir I will manage this, you focus on the follow up.... "
After a while he was ready with the set. He had compiled the documents very neatly & logically. He asked me to review the set. As I started going through the papers, he sat beside me with a paper & pen & said, "please do keep telling me wherever the information is missing & I will write it down. We will make a list for follow up".
With in the next few minutes, we had the checklist ready. We were able to complete a focussed follow up & with in the next couple of hours, I was ready with the report. I saw the watch, it was 11 p.m.! The sense of accomplishment made me tired & I was about to retire for the day.
As I decided to close the shop, he again appeared with a suggestion,
"Sir, let us spend a few minutes & complete the final compilation...tomorrow, boss will need it in the first hour. I will help you out"
He not only helped me in arranging the papers, but also guided me how to index the annexures, code them & file them. He did all this with such fine craftsman ship & detailing (for example, he taught me how to stapple a huge bunch of papers to ensure a better visibility!) that it became a first hand coaching which I cherish even today!
We completed the job & left the office together. On our way back, I had some conversation about his family, background, native village & life there. He was earning less than half of what I was getting & was supporting a family of nine( & he was still a bachlor). Still he was content, very satisfied with his life.
Friends, I got a lot of appreciation for the good job this man had done for me. I could not return him the thanks since he had left the job & that was his last day in the office. I always remeber him for he taught me a lesson of life....
"Every one has his own traits & offers an opprtunity to anyone to learn something from him. It is on you how & how much you are willing to learn. But before that, you need to trust him, respect him. This trust & respect will brake the sham & will give you an insight into his traits. You have to give him the respect he deserves. Respect can be given or earned. Given respect comes from authority & going away with it. A respect which is earned remains for ever....
Let us all try to earn respect. This is possible if we respect people. Let us give it a try atleast...."
Cheers!
Arun
I am back with some new thoughts. Again this one is meant to address some challanges that we face at the workplace in specific & life in general.
Often we seek attention, respect, appreciation & recogniotion from people.
We feel good if people recognize us. We feel better if they actually come & say hello. We feel on the top of the world if they appreciate us in public. Right?
We often complain of being ignored, not being appreciated, not being recognized, not getting a fulfilment, respect & reward from what we do at home or office.
Why does this happen?
How many times do we honestly try to admire other people...specially in the peer group?
We often tend to ignore one very simple thing, "every one has his own traits - some good ones - where we have a scope to learn...& this person deserves a respect for the same".
Often I have seen that we create a sham around us restricting overselves from this exposure. Why does this happen?
Because we feel ourselves superior to others? we feel they do not even deserve a pat of appreciation from us? Or does this feeling comes out of a sense of insecurity within ourselves?
I will explain this with an example.
In the earlier years of my career a colleague of mine used to get very much irretated because of a steno. The poor fellow was a tribal from North east India & had a natural challange for accent of spoken Hindi or English.
This colleague of mine often used to make mockery out of his accent, body language etc. He would scold him for petty things. Unfortunately I do not have a happy ending to state for this story since I did not have the courage or enlightment to confront this friend of mine on this issue.
Then one good day something happened which forced me to revisit my approach towards life. I was handling a complex assignment with a tight deadline. Not to say, I was under some real pressure having already spent a couple of sleepless nights working more than 16 hours a day. To make the things worst, I was to compile a detailed report running into more than hundred pages, with several annexures. This report was to be presented to my director next morning for his review. The worst part was that the annexures were to be reconciled & compiled from various annexures sent by different branch offices.
It was already 6 p.m. I was still coordinating with branches for the complete data. I was hassled, tensed, panicky, irritated & feeling really feeling sucked up....
Most of my colleagues had packed off for the day & I knew after a while I will be left alone the fight this battle....
Then, from some where, this steno appeared. He offerred himself for help. I new I needed help, but was not sure if he was the right person. I believe he understood what was going in my mind. He simply came forward & requested me to move to an adjacent table. His firmness & confidence pushed me to follow the instructions. He quitely rearranged my table, gathering all the relevant papers at one place.
"Sir, now please tell me how would you like to arrange these papers..." he asked me.
I explained him the structure. I asked him, "will you be able to do it?" He smiled & said.."Yes!"
I could feel waves of all types of emotions - excitement, relief & joy flowing in my heart.
For a few seconds, I watched him.
He looked at me - "sir I will manage this, you focus on the follow up.... "
After a while he was ready with the set. He had compiled the documents very neatly & logically. He asked me to review the set. As I started going through the papers, he sat beside me with a paper & pen & said, "please do keep telling me wherever the information is missing & I will write it down. We will make a list for follow up".
With in the next few minutes, we had the checklist ready. We were able to complete a focussed follow up & with in the next couple of hours, I was ready with the report. I saw the watch, it was 11 p.m.! The sense of accomplishment made me tired & I was about to retire for the day.
As I decided to close the shop, he again appeared with a suggestion,
"Sir, let us spend a few minutes & complete the final compilation...tomorrow, boss will need it in the first hour. I will help you out"
He not only helped me in arranging the papers, but also guided me how to index the annexures, code them & file them. He did all this with such fine craftsman ship & detailing (for example, he taught me how to stapple a huge bunch of papers to ensure a better visibility!) that it became a first hand coaching which I cherish even today!
We completed the job & left the office together. On our way back, I had some conversation about his family, background, native village & life there. He was earning less than half of what I was getting & was supporting a family of nine( & he was still a bachlor). Still he was content, very satisfied with his life.
Friends, I got a lot of appreciation for the good job this man had done for me. I could not return him the thanks since he had left the job & that was his last day in the office. I always remeber him for he taught me a lesson of life....
"Every one has his own traits & offers an opprtunity to anyone to learn something from him. It is on you how & how much you are willing to learn. But before that, you need to trust him, respect him. This trust & respect will brake the sham & will give you an insight into his traits. You have to give him the respect he deserves. Respect can be given or earned. Given respect comes from authority & going away with it. A respect which is earned remains for ever....
Let us all try to earn respect. This is possible if we respect people. Let us give it a try atleast...."
Cheers!
Arun
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
How to get out of depression
Life is very hectic....
It is routine....
What am I doing?
To hell with every one....
They know nothing & won't let me do anything....
I need a break (I am broke)....
Why should I go to the office today?
Does anyone love me?
Do they really need me?
I should go to an unknown place....switch off my mobile.....hide from every one....
Every one is my enemy....
I am being cornered by every one...
Why me....me only....????
I did so much for every one, but no body cares for me....
These are some of the questions everyone confronts thyselves at some point or the other. Many of us don't admit (they will never admit - it is a personality trait). But if we sit back & speak truly to our selves, we will realize the truth.
I am listing a few simple things I have been advising people to get out of this situation:
1- Write - Try to write your thoughts. They might be unclear, broken thoughts. You might be tearing a few pages. Let it happen. Let the thoughts flow in. It helps....
How? It helps you structure your thoughts. Ask yourself to write the instance that is bithering you. Write the circumstances which lead to the situation. What you did to not to fall in the situation? What more you could have done to avoid this fall? What is the worst outcome of this situation?
Now go to a fresh page. Write, how you can now come out of this situation? Right down step by step what you need to do to come out of this situation. Are you in a position to come out? What are the consequences of coming out? Try to figure out are these consequences for real or just a phobia created by socio economic insecurities (here you may need help of some of your friends/ close relatives). Say to yourself - "Yes I can come out of this situation"..."I can win". Repeat it with more & more affirmty. You will feel better now.
You may see situations where you are not better placed to come out. So, what to do now?
.
.
.
.
Enjoy the situation....:)
Remember the quote..."If you cannot avoid rape...better enjoy it"
(I apologize to people who get offended by this!)
2- Once you have this structured thought, try to figure out people whom you can approach for help. You should be clear in mind of your problem & what probably you need as a help. Speaking to people helps a lot.
3- If nothing gets you on, think as if you are dying. Imagine of people whom you would like to be with you when you die. Imagine what is going through their mind & soul at that moment. Would you like to be in that situation? It will surely help you come out of depression.
Please do semd me your comments on the same
It is routine....
What am I doing?
To hell with every one....
They know nothing & won't let me do anything....
I need a break (I am broke)....
Why should I go to the office today?
Does anyone love me?
Do they really need me?
I should go to an unknown place....switch off my mobile.....hide from every one....
Every one is my enemy....
I am being cornered by every one...
Why me....me only....????
I did so much for every one, but no body cares for me....
These are some of the questions everyone confronts thyselves at some point or the other. Many of us don't admit (they will never admit - it is a personality trait). But if we sit back & speak truly to our selves, we will realize the truth.
I am listing a few simple things I have been advising people to get out of this situation:
1- Write - Try to write your thoughts. They might be unclear, broken thoughts. You might be tearing a few pages. Let it happen. Let the thoughts flow in. It helps....
How? It helps you structure your thoughts. Ask yourself to write the instance that is bithering you. Write the circumstances which lead to the situation. What you did to not to fall in the situation? What more you could have done to avoid this fall? What is the worst outcome of this situation?
Now go to a fresh page. Write, how you can now come out of this situation? Right down step by step what you need to do to come out of this situation. Are you in a position to come out? What are the consequences of coming out? Try to figure out are these consequences for real or just a phobia created by socio economic insecurities (here you may need help of some of your friends/ close relatives). Say to yourself - "Yes I can come out of this situation"..."I can win". Repeat it with more & more affirmty. You will feel better now.
You may see situations where you are not better placed to come out. So, what to do now?
.
.
.
.
Enjoy the situation....:)
Remember the quote..."If you cannot avoid rape...better enjoy it"
(I apologize to people who get offended by this!)
2- Once you have this structured thought, try to figure out people whom you can approach for help. You should be clear in mind of your problem & what probably you need as a help. Speaking to people helps a lot.
3- If nothing gets you on, think as if you are dying. Imagine of people whom you would like to be with you when you die. Imagine what is going through their mind & soul at that moment. Would you like to be in that situation? It will surely help you come out of depression.
Please do semd me your comments on the same
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Trust people to solve problems
Friends
I am a common man like any one. I have my own dreams, comittments, expectations, aspirations, zealousies, frustrations like any other common man would have. I also love success, like to be in lime light, get depressed/ zealous when ignored.
I faced a big challange of handling a large team. This team was a diversified one. When I say diversified, I mean from various perspectives viz. gender, qualification, socio-economic background etc. Often they would induldge in wierd & immature arguments.
Initially, it became a challange to deal with such issues. Then I decided to encourage them resolve issues on their own. I would ask them to write their problems with the reason as to why it is hampering his work (eliminate personal issues from it) along with the possible reason why the other person would have been acting the way he is acting & causing a problem. Believe me, it worked & worked very well. How?
1- While writing the problems & the background, the thought process became structured
2- People were asked to eliminate personal issues & it resolved most of the problems!
3- People were forced to write other person's perspective. It helped all the three (two parties in conflict & me) actually know their understanding of the scenario & resolve the issue accordingly.
4- In case the issue was diagnosed to be immatured reaction, I forced them to sit in a close room & reach an agreement. i would no allow them to come out unless both of them reach an agreement (This actually worked in most of the cases)
5- I prohobited the use of word "Problem". The motto given was, "if there is a solution to a problem, there is no problem at all". Instead, word "Challange" was used.
6- Except for formal communications, internal mails were discouraged. People were encouraged to speak to each other - "Face to Face"
I believe the essence of working in any organization is "Man Management". This man can be an internal customer or an external customer.
Best way to resolve a dispute is to address it. A dispute can only be resolved if the party's to the dispute are willing it to be resolved. Next stage is arbitration & the last stage is litigation (in an organization, I would equate litigation with termination)
I am a common man like any one. I have my own dreams, comittments, expectations, aspirations, zealousies, frustrations like any other common man would have. I also love success, like to be in lime light, get depressed/ zealous when ignored.
I faced a big challange of handling a large team. This team was a diversified one. When I say diversified, I mean from various perspectives viz. gender, qualification, socio-economic background etc. Often they would induldge in wierd & immature arguments.
Initially, it became a challange to deal with such issues. Then I decided to encourage them resolve issues on their own. I would ask them to write their problems with the reason as to why it is hampering his work (eliminate personal issues from it) along with the possible reason why the other person would have been acting the way he is acting & causing a problem. Believe me, it worked & worked very well. How?
1- While writing the problems & the background, the thought process became structured
2- People were asked to eliminate personal issues & it resolved most of the problems!
3- People were forced to write other person's perspective. It helped all the three (two parties in conflict & me) actually know their understanding of the scenario & resolve the issue accordingly.
4- In case the issue was diagnosed to be immatured reaction, I forced them to sit in a close room & reach an agreement. i would no allow them to come out unless both of them reach an agreement (This actually worked in most of the cases)
5- I prohobited the use of word "Problem". The motto given was, "if there is a solution to a problem, there is no problem at all". Instead, word "Challange" was used.
6- Except for formal communications, internal mails were discouraged. People were encouraged to speak to each other - "Face to Face"
I believe the essence of working in any organization is "Man Management". This man can be an internal customer or an external customer.
Best way to resolve a dispute is to address it. A dispute can only be resolved if the party's to the dispute are willing it to be resolved. Next stage is arbitration & the last stage is litigation (in an organization, I would equate litigation with termination)
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